Coming Home and Old T's

This will be a short one ‘cos my slip disc is back. The pain is just annoying and I shouldn’t be sitting down so much. I felt I had to write this before I forget. I just had dinner with a couple of friends and I recalled a particular conversation with an acquaintance in a car as we were helping out at a friends wedding. We started to talk about all our girlfriends current and ex and their expectations and he on his ex girlfriends as he just got married. He said that he met his current wife and they went out only on a few dates before he decided that she is the one. After a few months of further dating as a couple, they made the decision to get married.

I asked him what triggered it and he said this, which I felt made a lot of sense. He said when he is with her, it is so comfortable and vice versa. It felt like he had come home. It’s like when you reached home, the feeling is one of comfort and ease. I think he hit the nail on the head. If you are always fighting with your girlfriend or boyfriend you tend to want to not be with the other person till both cooled down or worked things out. You don’t think it’s a home you would want to come back to. You will always want to stay out as late as possible as it is not a place you want to be.

Ex girlfriend has this group of girlfriends which also included a guy who would call all the girls whenever he is alone. Whether he is driving to work, at work or driving out of work. All his conversations were mostly idle chats and I never understood why he would do that all the time even to my ex girlfriend. It was much later I figured it out. He is trapped in a relationship with his wife where he cannot divorce her and the only way he can escape from his personal hell was to talk to everyone but his wife. They allowed him to be himself and he can forget his problems. He will stay out as late as possible, hit home dead tired and head to bed. This way he doesn’t need to speak much with the wife. It’s a sad situation but again same reasoning as to not wanting to come home. Not comfortable for him.

Like another friend said, being in a relationship that works is like wearing a very old t-shirt. Doesn’t fit as well anymore because of the tenth thousand times you washed it but it’s still always the first you pick to wear to sleep because it is the most comfortable. Food for thought. Next time you want to know if the other party is the one, think of home and old worn pajamas t shirt!